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I have an over-active imagination; always have, and it’s not helped by the fact that I’m something of a popular culture junkie. Without realizing it, I’m constantly calling upon different books I’ve read or movies or television shows I’ve watched. So it probably shouldn’t be a surprise that my imagination kicked into overdrive when I visited the steam room at my area YMCA early one morning a couple of weeks ago.
I had finished working out and had a bit of time to kill before I met a friend for cofee. So before showierng I entered into the small tiled room and immediately sat down close to the door. The steam was so thick that I couldn’t tell if anyone else was in the room with me. But I’ve seen all the seasons of The Sopranos and multiple Scorcese films. I pictured all types of illicit conversations shared in hushed tones. Plus all types of illicit 1970’s and early 1980’s-style activities that I won’t get into here.
I’m a big believer in the truth being quite boring and the truth is that I was alone in the steam room. After a few minutes I had enough. So I showered and went on with my day.
In hindsight, I should have seen what was coming but when I mentioned the steam room to my wife and teenage kids, the kids teased me mercilessly. Neither of them have ever been in a steam room, mind you, but it seems that stereotypes and cliches have a way of enduring. My steam room visit became somethng of a thing,
But then something funny happened that in hindsight, I proabably also should have seen coming; our son Ethan became curious about the steam room. I had reserved two lap lanes in the YMCA pool this morning for Ethan and me. Ethan asked if we could go into the steam room after our swim.
As I sat there next to Ethan in the steam room, I considered how what the two of us were doing wasn’t so different from what so many of my ancestors had done before us – taking a “schvitz,” which is the Yiddish word for sweat and is used as a noun and a verb. A “schvitz” is essentially a bathhouse or steam room where Eastern European Jews, just like the relatives on both my wife and my sides of the family, would congregate; a place where they felt comfortable and welcome.
So much was going through my brain during the five or so minutes Ethan and I sat there. About Ukraine. About my Jewish identity. About the parent-child, especially the father-son bond and, as corny as it sounds, how everything comes full circle. That traditions and cultures will always endure.
Ethan and I looked at each other at around the same time. We’d both had enough. It was time to go and we agreed to do it again sometime soon.
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